Saturday, May 19, 2018

Decision Journaling

First let’s start with an excerpt from an article on Shodor.org

Mentor: Our brains play an important part in how we perceive objects. For example, take a look at this tessellation and describe what you see:


Student: I see rows of crooked lines with a distorted checkerboard pattern in them.
Mentor: Are you sure the lines are crooked?
Student: Yes! They look wider at one end than the other.
Mentor: Hold a ruler or other straight edge along the horizontal lines in the image and tell me what you observe.
Student: (holding a ruler to the image) It doesn't seem possible, but the lines actually are straight! Why do they appear to be crooked?
 

My biggest takeaway from the above optical illusion is that even when it is becomes clear that your initial assumptions are wrong, your perception is still difficult to change. 

This debacle is even worse with entrenched cognitive biases and the stories we tell ourselves in order to live with ourselves. We lack accurate data on our decision making, yet glorify our gut feelings, because our brains have an uncanny way of increasing the odds in our favor and getting even with everyone but ourselves.

I learnt a simple way of checking myself and staying grounded on what my real decision-making success rate is, by keeping a decision journal as advised by Daniel Kahneman. 

No standard template on decision making or decision journaling is being recommended, all I am asking is that you try out documenting your critical decisions, the intended outcomes, the reasons for the decision, how you feel about the decision and the sign posts that will act as signals for progress.

You can use a pen and notepad or an electronic device - whichever is more convenient.

What you will find by keeping a decision journal is that it will actually help you think more critically about your decisions (because writing is a great way to improve clarity), and you cannot come back to say - “If all the other people or things had acted in a standard way, it would have worked”. Whatever you missed in your decision journaling that led to an undesired outcome, is only indicative of your limitation. Undesired outcomes actually help to expand your limits, by improving the variables you will consider in future decision making.

Outcomes are the best reality checks. Outcomes provide a golden opportunity to refine your decision making in the future and improve your gut responses in emergencies. But it only works if you put down your thoughts on how you arrived at the decisions, failing which, your brain kicks in and rationalizes how you were right in spite of the outcomes and the world was wrong for its unpredictable variables.

This does not mean that for every decision, you whip out a notebook to start documenting, no, that will lead to an unprecedented number of accidents that you may not survive. What I am suggesting is that you pick 3 critical areas you need to take a decision on every week and document why and how you arrived at that decision. Then open yourself up to let the outcomes shape your cognitive biases. 

At the end of each process, your brain might still be able to trick you into believing you are always right (hindsight bias), even when the outcomes say otherwise, but you will become more conscious of the illusion.

 - Osasu Oviawe

Sunday, May 13, 2018

Return Trip

Just like trips down memory lane, return trips sometimes "seem" faster and more pleasurable. Our brains have a way of making sense of the journey, only after the end is reached. 

Why can't we enjoy the journey more, the first time? Our desire for the end postpones the joy of the journey and where joy is lacking, nothing worthy fills the space.

This is why mentors are important. They've been on the path before, they've seen and sometimes missed the end, but they've gone through the path before, even if it was in a different season. The mentoring process is a return trip for the mentor. He is getting an opportunity to go back and enjoy the journey, with company - the mentee.

The mentee, on the other hand, is given an opportunity to understand the emptiness of the end and the riches in the journey. 

Imagine going on a trip with someone that has been to where you are going and knows the stories behind each road, each town, each statue, each forest and each desert you pass. As you are soaked into the richness of your journey, the end comes a little faster and then you find yourself actively seeking out an opportunity for your own return trip - your mentee.

We do not lack mentors in the world, we lack people who know when and how to ask for help. 

I have been lucky to have quite a number of great mentors, and no, I am not talking about the formal ones forced on me by HR algorithms (apologies to my HR friends), I am talking about an unprecedented pride of leaders that I have had the good fortune of working with. 

I cannot share names in this article because I need to get permission first, but if there is one advice I can give, seek a mentor. Not because of the end, but because of the journey. 

In seeking a mentor, don't walk up to the individual or call or send a mail saying, "Please I want you to be my mentor". It works for the narcissistic, but it's a red flag for the greatest mentors. If you admire the qualities of an individual, find a way to engage - share your victories and your concerns. Bring something that is not clear in your journey and when you get advice, use it and show the results -
What worked? What didn't work? Mentoring is more of a relationship than a contract. Relationships have an evolving end, contracts have a fixed end. If you want mentoring to work, nurture a relationship.

Mentors give you the benefits of a "return trip" feeling on your first trip, while ensuring your direction remains aligned to your desired end.

Godspeed.

- Osasu Oviawe


Sunday, May 6, 2018

The illusion called time

“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.” - Steve Jobs
 
The greatest trick in life is the illusion that we have time.
 
When people think they have more time, they do less. 
 
The wisest words are heard on dying beds.
Employees close to retirement focus more on what’s most important - people.
People in war-torn areas are a lot more mindful than any meditation can offer.
 
Your best is seen when you seem to have less time.
 
More time increases the activation energy required to overcome inertia. This is why John Kotter intelligently suggested "Creating a sense of urgency", as the first step in change management.
 
I re-read a beautiful article from Bronnie Ware last week - Regrets of the dying.
 
In summary, the top 5 regrets were:
 
  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

The only time you have is now. Learn and be free.
  
- Osasu Oviawe